I have downloaded the pdf's for your car ( wiring diagrams / schematics ) . Do you want me to email them to you ?
I think you are right , the fuse is EMS-2 .
If you have 12VDC from the heater pin & battery ground & 8.5 VDC between the 2 heater pins , I am wondering if you are loosing ground , partially ?
God bless
Wyr