So today, after 6 hours of straight work on the wiring, it did not work.
I connected the Red from the module to the 12v+ on the ignition harness, and stripped the wire a little bit before the 15 amp fuse and connected terminal 86 + 85 from both the relays to the same Red wire running from the module to the ignition harness.
I connected both the parking lights from the module to the car. I connected the lock and unlock wires from the module to the 85 relay, and connected the lock and unlock wires from the actuators to the 30 of relays.
Didn't do any of the other wirings as it seemed unnessary at this point, I just wanted to make sure that it works first. turned the ignition to on and pressed the over ride button 4 times as per instruction of programming, and it did not flash or chirp or nothing. Tried pressing the lock and unlock button on the remote...nothing.
I feel very defeated at this point, thinking of just giving up on it. The wires were soldered and taped as per recommended. Don't know what the issue is. If there is any final advice, let me know, otherwise I'm just gonna rip the wires out and give up :P.