I called two dealers both say reprogramming / flashing a used ECU ( same year , same trans, etc) is doubtful ( one said 80% failure rate ) , then I look on ebay and find a reputable seller charging $255. for a used ECU reprogrammed/flashed and guaranteed to work as long as I provide all info ( VID , trans, etc)
Interesting how one seller can reprogram/flash a used ECU and dealers say probably not . Someone is incompetent or not telling the truth .
Today I hopefully find out if all things point to a bad ECU . Then it's decision time .