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:shock: very very random. i cant comment since i dont have kids yet. hmm i'd goto the Dr. even tho it will suck 2 ask. btw the baby is yours for sure, right? sorry 2 ask
my uncle and aunt tried alot!! but the prolem was her meds pretty much killed the sperm. soo they went 2 the Dr to get it done. months later shes got Triplets!! 2 boys 1 girl. they are now 10 years old.
if all else fails i'd adopt. i thought about it w/ my wife 2. but as of now i [-o< for a better job, and im tryin 2 get a house right now. soo not in a rush for babies as of now [-X
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Yeah I believe the baby is mine. But had some doubts about it, she did some things, I just never said anything. And since she cheated before, and when she left me she cheated.
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:evil: i hate cheaters! sorry bro. well i have another unlce and aunt that been tryin b4 but still nothing. so idk. but they have lots of nephews and nieces that live near by.
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I'm sure your local Urologist could point you in the right direction to have a test done for count and motility if you need to. Pregnancy isnt just hey lets have sex unprotected and have a baby. Maybe sometimes it works that way for some people but not for all. Theyre so many variants to getting pregnant.
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It took 6 months of "scheduled" trying for my wife to get pregnant with my son, whose our first born. Only took one time, weren't even trying, to get pregnant with our daughter.
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Originally Posted by petrified.rabbit
It took 6 months of "scheduled" trying for my wife to get pregnant with my son, whose our first born. Only took one time, weren't even trying, to get pregnant with our daughter.
See now thats how random it can be. My sister has 2 children, a boy and a girl, 4 yrs apart and it happens when it happens.
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Originally Posted by 4g63gst20
This is probably the most random question you are finna find here on aveoforum.com.
But ok here is it is.
How many of you here have kids? And how many tries did it take? How many got it on the first try?
The reason im asking this is because me and ex tried many times to have a baby, never worked. Then when she is supposed to start taking the pill, doctor says she is pregnant.
After the baby was born and for 3 yrs barely used any " protection" and never got pregnant again.
Now something leads me to believe that somehow, "my gun shoots blanks"
I don't plan on taking any action but just wanna see if its kinda normal that it takes a few tries or maybe somebody else " helped" here.( ex did cheat before).
Im not sure where to start here.
Just for giggles Id go get a DNA test done. If you cant afford it or some ****, go to Maury (kind of a joke, kind of not). That could give you an answer pronto if you were to be shooting blanks. If the baby is not yours, you have some decision to make and Id hope you would make the right ones. Or you could do what NYChevoo said and ask for a referral to see a doc about your baby gravy. Technically, when a woman is on birth control she should not be ovulating (but things happen). If both avenues check out in your favor, Id get her into a doctor and see if she might have some sort of hormone deficiency/excess or something that would cause her not to release an egg while off the pill or to just get more information as to what could be going on. It may seem like an obvious thing but there can be alot of mis-information and not to dis-credit any members on this board, but a car forum is not a place to get birthing/birth control/pregnancy info. All we can give you is our experiences which is partialy what you are asking for.
No kids here. No rush, but I am looking forward to it :D
Hope this helps a little bit.
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Well, I'm almost a doctor (less than 8 months!), so here is some free info!
-The definition of "infertility" is having unprotected sexual relations with someone consistently for one year (if the female is under 35) and not getting pregnant. Consistently means having relations every other day.
-The chance of getting pregnant in any one month that a couple tries to conceive (having sex every other day) is about 20%, which at the end of 1 year leaves about 7% of "normal" people still not pregnant (ie people with truly nothing wrong with them)
-Around 25% of couples never find a reason for their infertility
-Around 40% of the time, the cause for infertility is the male (which means the other 60% of the time, it is the female)
-Most insurances don't cover infertility workup- but it is a lot easier to workup male infertility than female (anywhere from $50-250 for a semen analysis).
Depending on how comfortable you are with your doctor, it wouldn't hurt to ask about having a semen analysis performed. Your regular PCP should be able request the test if you really want to know(don't necessarily have to go to a urologist), but it doesn't sound like you're ready right now. Most doctors I know don't get embarassed by talking about things like this ie infertility, sex, erectile dysfunction, etc. So it's really up to you to work up the nerve to ask at your next appointment (again, if you want).
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We have had many challenges and tests. Tests are a pain but mostly easy for the guy and cheaper. We've been officially trying for 5 years. Adoption and more costly measures are up for discussion now since I am stating a new job.
You can go into the doc with a list if you do not want to bring it up. It is easier to talk about than you think. They are professionals and you are paying them to listen and help.
Good luck with all.
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Thanks for the very helpful replies, not looking for actual help just the experiences you had, I know this is car forum and I feel comfortable asking this here. and I wouldn't be embarrassed to talk to a doctor about this.
I don't plan in taking any action or getting a dna test. This is just Like a friend to friend talk.
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ooooohhh ok. Experiences.... I once dated a cheating whore(!) for like 8 months. We did the hibbity dibbity and I foolishly didn't wear a rain coat. We broke up on bad terms, and then a few weeks later to get revenge at me, she told me she was preggo. So I "got back together" with her to do the right thing for the baby. I told my folks about it (keep in mind I am in high scool, this is my senior year) who flipped out and called her folks. They went to the doctors and got her tested for real and we found out she was not preggo after all. So I ended that relationship that morning and took a step back and thought, "wow, I could have really been screwed for a long time..." I spent a good while thinking about how this could have ended so differently. Then about a week later I found out she was sleeping with 2 other guys while with me. I could have been mad about that, but, what was the point. The one kid was already scared of me as it was because he knew what he had done, and the other was some guy from another school that I never got the pleasure to meet. I was just relieved that I had/have no stds, no child, and the drama was over. Btw, I went half of junior year of high school and senior year plus the summer in between with a gf at all times. I never went 24 hours without some girl at my side. I call that a win :) there may be others who can beat that or whatever, but I don't care.
that's my story.
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that's what being young, dumb, and full of "come" does to you ^
